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Bereavement Support Posts => Introduce Yourself To Us All => Topic started by: payneyg on February 07, 2017, 07:24:42 PM

Title: Hello I'm new on here
Post by: payneyg on February 07, 2017, 07:24:42 PM

Hello, my name is Gill and I joined BUK today.  Havn't found my way around this site yet.

Title: Re: Hello I'm new on here
Post by: Emz2014 on February 07, 2017, 08:32:59 PM

Hi, sending a welcome hug  :hug: xx

Title: Re: Hello I'm new on here
Post by: Hubby on February 07, 2017, 10:32:39 PM

Welcome to the forum Gill.

 :hug:

Title: Re: Hello I'm new on here
Post by: payneyg on February 08, 2017, 10:40:27 AM

Hello, not having a great morning. Even after 15 months, I still have bad days.  However, I have more better days than bad, so seem to be getting somewhere.

Title: Re: Hello I'm new on here
Post by: Norma on February 08, 2017, 11:34:06 AM

Sending you a welcome   :hug:

Hi Gill, The bad days seem to hit us like a cannonball sometimes, and more often than not its the silliest little thing that sets us off, its best to just accept it and ride the roller coaster, but on a positive thought, we know it will pass and we will get a few good days. Xxx

Title: Re: Hello I'm new on here
Post by: Emz2014 on February 08, 2017, 07:51:45 PM

Sending a hug  :hug:

I do find that if I 'accept' the feeling, it seems to help it pass faster.  I guess its like I give myself permission to feel down, instead of fighting it I try and treat myself as I would a friend (so maybe I allow myself to watch a film, read a book, have a tasty meal etc, allow myself to not achieve as much)  I then find it easier sometimes to find energy to do something like a hobby - almost like the energy I've saved from not fighting the feeling has allowed me to start something which helps a better day come xx